Culture is a funny thing to put so much time and energy into really, because really it’s totally intangible. Impossible to measure the return on the emotional and intellectual investment. The investment of time, and brain power. The books, the articles, the conversations. How are we really doing? And… whisper this quietly… what good is it really doing?
The dictionary definition of faith is:
…firm belief in something for which there is no proof.Merriam-Webster Dictionary
Personally I’m not a religious person. I don’t have faith in that sense. Yet I do have incredible faith in the value of creating a really inclusive working environment.
How is that faith so strong, so unshakeable?
Well perhaps it’s because the end point is something we all recognise. Something we all know exists even if we could never touch it or see it or put a number against it on a spreadsheet.
We’re trying to get to a feeling. A feeling that can make us feel safe; that in its absence makes us feel exposed.
Think back to a time when you really didn’t feel you belonged. Maybe it was at school, or at a company where you felt you had to pretend to be someone you weren’t to fit in. Perhaps it’s when you find yourself in certain conversations, or in certain situations, or certain places.
It’s a bloody horrible feeling, isn’t it? Making you feel uncomfortable and uneasy and kind of small. And it stays with you.
So let’s leave that behind and go somewhere much nicer, shall we? Because the positive flipside is just as powerful as a connective tissue.
When was that time when you really did feel you belonged?
Perhaps it’s that time with that group of colleagues when it all just clicked. Perhaps it’s right in the middle of the dance floor, surrounded by strangers, when the beat’s just about to drop. Perhaps it’s just sitting with your closest friends, laughing in that weird way you laugh sometimes with the little piggy snort at the end (you know who you are).
Belonging means you feel safe. It means you can just be yourself, dancing like nobody’s watching… when everyone’s watching.
That’s something to aim for, right?
And that’s why I’m doing this work in inclusivity and diversity: so that people can feel like they belong. And when they belong they will feel free to be creative and innovative and unique and weird in all their weird and wonderful ways.
Because (and promise you won’t tell anyone this), I’m actually quite weird too, in my own way. So are you. We all are. And we all need to belong, for reasons that are hundreds of thousands of years old.
Human beings are pack animals. Strategically shaved monkeys really. We have created a civilisation more complex and complicated and confusing than any in the history of our planet – way more complex than we are designed for, in evolutionary terms. Which is why we are conditioned to yearn for belonging – so we are part of the tribe – protected and safe. Close to the camp fire.
I don’t care that it’s not measurable to be honest – I’ve got evolutionary psychology on my side.
So yes, let’s aim for belonging, and let’s have faith in its value through culture, and values, and connection, and love, and all the other stuff you can’t put a number on.
Just because you can’t measure something doesn’t mean it’s not real.
Happy New Year brothers and sisters. Love and peace.